"Happiness is only real when shared."

Friday, January 25, 2013

Dating Myself

So as time has passed since my last relationship, I have thought about what I've wanted in a guy. Improvements to my ideal future husbands to prevent any damage to my future. Let me give you an example of things I looked for on a date.

Did he open all the doors, including car doors?
   Was he friendly with all he encountered?
       Did he speak of others in an uplifting manner, like a friend should?
          Is he honoring or trying to honor his priesthood covenants?
              Does he respect me, my wishes, and those around him? 

Now these are ones I will keep forever! But here were ones I had, that I realized perhaps hurt me in the dating world...

Big Spoon...
    If we were to cuddle or "spoon", would I be the big or little spoon? No girl wants to be the big spoon! That's just awkward! So height and weight were a requirement. Just had to be bigger than my hispanic curves!

Born, Bred, and Potato Fed!
    So I refused to date anyone from Idaho! Reason being was that I never, (and I still really don't), want to land up living in Idaho. By all means, it is a great state! But I hate not having a big city near by, and the cold is just awful! Bearable... but not desired.

Syncing Ipods
     haha. So this means I was such a brat, that I looked to see if we liked the same music. I just couldn't deal with someone who didn't like country or didn't like my taste in music. I couldn't imagine fighting over what to listen to in the car everyday! Been there. Done that. Didn't want it again!

Wanna Be a Baller!
     I am a huge sports fanatic and dating a guy that was big into sports was a must! And to top it off it had to be sports I liked. Playing basketball, baseball, soccer, and volleyball were my emphasis. But wrestling, tennis, running, just didn't give me the "you're a babe" response I wanted.


What I've Learned....
My personal goals/ideals in a guy were perhaps preventing me from seeing potential suitors that were right there in front of me.

Let's take my life just recently!...
I have known a great guy for about a year now. Has an awesome sense of humor, saw each other often, is always so kind and inclusive, caring, compassionate to all, the list goes on! But he wasn't up to some of my "requirements" that I looked for in a guy. So I never saw him like that.... Until recently. I decided I needed to ease up. (My mother told me I needed to or I'd end up alone haha) So! With that I decided to evaluate how I evaluate guys. And realized I was being quite dramatic and ridiculous!

NOW!

Well, I have quite the predicament on my hands... There is a guy who used to have interest in me, that I put in the "friend zone", that I am now having feelings for. And all I can think is I hope is that it's not too late! And because we have been such great friends I don't know how to approach the "oh hey! I'm ready to give this a shot" conversation! I'm so silly!

I started praying in September of 2011 for Heavenly Father to guide me on what to do. I thought a mission! And figured out that was not in my book. So I prayed, read my scriptures, read conference talks, did all I could. Returned to an ex thinking that maybe I needed to give that a billionth try! haha Realizing that was silly again, I kept praying. Praying EVERY night, (no joke, my friends can testify), that Heavenly Father would protect my future husband, he would honor his covenants, and that I would meet him soon... But NOW I'm realizing maybe he answered my prayers in January 2012 when I met my friend but I was expecting some GRAND entrance of this guy in my life. Not this smooth friendship I developed... Then again maybe that's not it at all... I just don't know. 
For the first time in a long while... I can say I am confused! :/
I have had life planned for the past 6 months, and now I am just a little uncertain...
All I know is that the poor boys who have dated me, were crazy to put up with my crazy nonsense haha! What troopers! :) 



Until next time...

Sunday, January 20, 2013

New Year... Same Me!

I have all these ideas running through my head the past month and have not had the patience to sit down and write. I'm lucky if I can get the time to write them in my journal! And I love writing in my journal! But this entry does not have anything but random thoughts and statements to the blogging world that I would love to share!
So let me share my "truths"!

Hispanic Christmas!
    It was a Feliz Navidad en Nuevo Mexico. And one thing I wanted to share even with my white friends was a cool tradition we have.
    Like for example we substitute gravy for mashed potatoes with red chili! Sooo good!
    We also have this tradition called farolitas/luminaria where little paper bags are set up with candles and sand in the bag that light up. They are so cool, and I never realized how unique it was until I lived in Idaho. haha!                                      
Farolitos on the street


Ugly Sweaters... Vans... Nikon D3100 Camera... JB perfume
 

FastGrad Ain't Fast Enough!----->>>
     So this is my first semester on the fast grad program in hope of graduating on time, do to a missed semester and well too many fun ones! haha With that I am going to school year round and have started to plan out my life! Which is by far the most exciting thing I am looking forward to! It goes as follows...

1. Graduate 2014 from BYU-I in Elementary Education

2. Attend a Boston Red Sox game with my brothers!

3. Move to Mesa, Arizona to student teach!!!!!!

4. Once established I want to travel! Travel! Travel! Travel!

5. After that is done, let's say a whooping 24 years of age, I will get right back to school and hope to obtain my Master at ASU.
6. And if I accomplish that and still have the drive I want to go BACK to school and get my BA in business!!!! This being if I am not a mom. (I think it would be a cool thing to do as a single woman!) :)

Deep dark hidden DESIRE....
     I really, really want to work for Disney! Not like, "How many are in your party?" or "You sit here, here, and here" I want to help run the business aspects. I have always loved customer service and making people smile, plus bring new ideas to the table and managing things, and working with kids and families! So what better place to do this than at Disneyland!!! MY FAVORITE PLACE on EARTH!!!! This would be my 'if I were single, and could conquer the world job!' Kind of excited! All this before I'm 30! Bucketlist... CHECK!



For now this is all I have to say.
To let you invade my world!
But there will be more, 'cause there always is!, so hang around. February is just around the corner!